How does love work?
As I look into romantic love it does look like it was wired in us as a species to survive to continue to exist and create new life.
Let’s start in the Supporting fields, here we see amplification and the aspect is clan ability-family. A clan must survive and thrive. Male and females must partner for this to happen and have the clan grow. Interestingly this is where pheromones take their role and help the right folks to form a bond with each other.
The next step is the engagement quality found from the most ancient part of self, found in perception. Engagement means actively engaging with another, curious. You may potentially feel the effects of chemistry are involved and rolling as well. Now this attraction is being enhanced by the chemical (hormonal) engagement.
DNA has a role as well. Our DNA holds the mating directive in more than 73% of humans, creating a drive to partnering and building family.
Moving us to existence in Essence, the part of our energetic being that will continue to exist, be seen and enhanced both in a present love relationship and in the creation of new life. This also has an aspect of complying with the clan and validation of partnered offspring have more credibility and as such are more valued members of the clan.
In the higher levels of romantic love, the activation of the Joy field actually starts in stage 2 and goes up to stage 7. (referring to the 7 stages of love. (learn more about the 7 stages of love in this home study program). Seven Stages of Love
Joy helps the bond hold and makes it stronger. Having joy helps validate and fortify the experience of being bonded, and when troubles come give a memory anchor that this challenge is only temporary.
Character is the next and probably most important part of romantic love. Bonding with a partner who has a strong character and ethics makes a profound difference in the solidity and enjoyment for both parties on the experience of long term monogamous love.
For the Good Wives of our community I give you the praise found in scripture just for you!
Proverbs 31;10-31
Poem on the Woman of Worth[a]
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Who can find[b] a woman of worth?
Far beyond jewels is her value.
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Her husband trusts her judgment;
he does not lack income.
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She brings him profit, not loss,[c]
all the days of her life.
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She seeks out wool and flax
and weaves with skillful hands.
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Like a merchant fleet,[d]
she secures her provisions from afar.
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She rises while it is still night,
and distributes food to her household,
a portion to her maidservants.
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She picks out a field and acquires it;
from her earnings she plants a vineyard
She girds herself with strength;
she exerts her arms with vigor.[e]
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She enjoys the profit from her dealings;
her lamp is never extinguished at night.[f]
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She puts her hands to the distaff,
and her fingers ply the spindle.[g]
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She reaches out her hands to the poor,
and extends her arms to the needy.
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She is not concerned for her household when it snows—
all her charges are doubly clothed.
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She makes her own coverlets;
fine linen and purple are her clothing.
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Her husband is prominent at the city gates
as he sits with the elders of the land.[h]
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She makes garments and sells them,
and stocks the merchants with belts.
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She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and laughs at the days to come.[i]
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She opens her mouth in wisdom;
kindly instruction is on her tongue.
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She watches over[j] the affairs of her household,
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
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Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband, too, praises her:
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“Many are the women of proven worth,
but you have excelled them all.”
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Charm is deceptive and beauty fleeting;
the woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.[k]
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Acclaim her for the work of her hands,
and let her deeds praise her at the city gates.